Five years and counting...

Potpourri from our garden 

It has been five years:

In all the hustle and bustle of our lives, I completely forgot that it has been five years yesterday, since I started calling the new world my home!

I will remember yesterday, as a bitter sweet day of my life, because of the following reasons:

1. One of my friends of twenty years ended (terminated in her words) our relationship over a very rude whatsapp message. Thank you social media! (Bitter)
2.  My boy was prevented from a tragic fall by God's grace (Morbid!)
3. My boy's first two lower teeth popped out (Sweet for me, not  so much for him!)

I didn't even realize that it has been five years (since I landed on the American soil as an immigrant from India with two suitcases full of my past 30 years of life), until I recalled it in a conversation with one of my close friends over phone today.

Our baby's birth and relationships' lens:

Nature boy

Ever since we became pregnant, and our son came along in 2015, the whole experience has put a crystal clear lens on our eyes to see the world in a very different light. I am sure that many of you, who have kids or underwent a life event of your own, might be able to relate to this. Only those who reached out and continue to inquire about his well being are worthy of keeping around for positivity and well wishes.

RR and I have been constantly evaluating our life and relationship (of over seven years or so that we have been together) and have taken this stern decision to let all the negative people and forces go. No explanations, no long conversations, no continuation of drama. Life is too short to dwell over inconsequential people and events. Like one of my fellow blogger friends wrote recently in one of her blog posts, so what.. its our own life.. we set the rules and we govern our life with our own rights and wrongs!  

It is very shocking to realize that individuals, who appear to be so intellectual, well read, celebrity like and worldly online, could be so violent and passive aggressive in real life. You live and learn, I guess.

Folks reach out to you, only when they need you in some way. For me distances, time zones and coordinates do not matter. One of my friends recently reached out, as she needed someone to confide into someone for her extramarital affair. Another friend reached out, when she needed some advise on her recently ended marriage and next steps. I am no expert. I am just a chump with computer. I try and share my own relevant experience with them. Just lend an ear to them really. They may take it or leave it, it's all up to them. I just try to be courteous, that's all.    

In the end, from this most recent roller coaster of emotions yesterday, I am a strong believer of this saying:

It takes nothing to be courteous to your fellow human beings. Everyone is going through their own struggles in life, it doesn't take a lot to just behave politely. 

Have you ever had a friend, who ended his/her relationship with you in a childish manner? How did you handle that situation to make yourself feel better? Please feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section or at pallavibharatgmaildotcom.